The second question asked in Alma 5 is:
“…have you sufficiently retained in remembrance his mercy and long-suffering towards them?”
He’s still speaking of your “fathers” here. The second step to becoming self-aware is to think of all of the things those who came before you were blessed with. You’ve already remembered all of the hard things and the difficult times they endured for you. Now think of the good things.
When we think of the bad things, all of those times when we were frustrated because of a response we received to something we did soften a little.
When we think of the good things in those who came before us, we realize that many of the good things in us came from them.
Where remembering the bad things brings us a sense of understanding, remembering the good things brings us a sense of gratitude.
Step 1: Learn where you come from and why you think the way you do (understand where you come from).
Step 2: Be grateful for the things, tangible or not, that you already have.